Let Go of What You Want, and You’ll Get It

The subtle foundation of trying to get what you want is this: most of the effort goes into worrying about not getting it.

Thoughts swirl: Am I doing it right? Should I do it differently? How do I make sure it works?
All of that is a distraction from the one-pointed focus you actually need. The result—hitting the ball to the green, nailing the swing, completing the task—cannot be forced. It comes through pure action, not through grasping or planning.

If my intention is to hit the golf ball to the green, and I spend the swing thinking about how to get it there, my attention is on the desire to get the result. The result slips further away. The only way to land the ball exactly where I want it is to focus on the swing itself, the action in front of me.

Five hindrances often pull me away from that focus:

  1. Desire and fear: wanting the outcome, fearing I won’t get it.
  2. Competition: thoughts about others—“I can’t let them beat me.”
  3. Rushing: trying to get to the end too quickly.
  4. Boredom or distraction: noticing something else more interesting.
  5. Doubt: “What’s the point of this anyway?”

The trick isn’t to fight these five. It’s to bring them fully into awareness.

  • Call up the desire. Feel it. Let it dissolve.
  • Notice the competitive thought. Observe it. Release it.
  • Recognize the rush. Slow it down. Let it go.
  • Sense the boredom. Acknowledge it. Allow it to pass.
  • Feel the doubt. Let it rest. Dissolve it.

Do this not as a mental exercise, but as an experience in your own mind. Pull each hindrance into awareness, watch it settle, and let it fade.

Once all five have dissolved, what remains is pure space.
The swing, the breath, the movement—everything flows naturally.
You breathe as if for the first time.
The past is gone. The future has not arrived.
There is only this time, right now, and the action that arises from it.

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